What do your listeners notice? Attentive ones notice:
They also may take note if they hear you...
--saying "like...." in front of every declarative statement
--saying "ya know" or 'uuuhhhh" whenever you need a pause
--reckless use of questionable humor: sexist jokes, dirty jokes, ethnic jokes, dumb-blond jokes
--failing to be gracious in your criticisms of others. Instead, take the "high ground" and acknowledge / recognize something good in what you criticize
--failing to show convictions. When you take a stand for a principle you believe in, do NOT hedge your belief. Unlike criticisms or positions discussed above, a conviction is "where you draw the line." If you don't ever speak your principles, a person meeting you won't know that you hold any.
© 2003 Michael E. Doherty
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